What I Learnt This Summer

I‘m back! Sorry for being MIA for the past month guys. I needed to celebrate the end of the European summer without being glued to the screen, and this meant taking a bit of a break from the laptop. But it’s so good to be back in the saddle! I love the bloggers and blog followers who take the time to read and respond meaningfully – it is such a nice dynamic to be able to express and be expressed to in a series of articles and pictures rather than captions and hashtags.

But while I was taking a bit of time to relax, I was mindful of making the most out of the headspace that came with it. I wrote down a few little notes and observations that I’d love to share.

Here are some of the things I learnt or were reinforced this summer:

  1. Always be kind to yourself and to people around you. My mother taught me that if I have nothing nice to say, then say nothing at all. Nobody’s perfect and everyone goes through patches where you’re aware you’re not necessarily projecting the best version of yourself. But I’ve never believed that pointing this out to people and lecturing anyone gets the best result. All humans have an abundance of natural intelligence, and I think if you can just be there to comfort friends and family when they’re not in the best frame of mind, eventually they will realise any shortcomings and learn from the positive example that you can set. And with particular regard to networking in media and PR circles, kindness goes a long way and it doesn’t cost anything – so sprinkle it everywhere. I always treat everyone with the level of respect that I would like to be treated with, and I never look down on anyone.
  2. Work smarter and not harder. Sometimes I get so overwhelmed by my work load (100 emails a day and a full calendar can get pretty hectic!) and I just end up working late into the night. But by the end of the night, I’ll often realise that I’ve been busy without being particularly productive! Remember that you can’t be all things to all people, so narrow down your focus and do just a few things really well. You don’t have to deep dive into every proposal that comes along, and sometimes the best thing for your mind is to go for a run, get out of your head and remember that you can’t participate in everything that other people want you to. Always be kind to yourself, so you can be in the best mindset to be kind to others!
  3. Live in the moment. I’m always booking the next trip, finalising the next collaboration, editing the next photo, planning the next shoot, making my way to the next event and I forget to really live in the moment! Unfortunately this type of behaviour means that my mind is always buried in what I’m about to do next. This summer I’ve learnt to just go with the flow and not let myself be driven by the fear of missing out! Go sit underneath a tree and read a book; really take the time to enjoy every bite of your next meal with no distractions; write some pages in your journal with a real pen and real paper; watch a movie in a cinema with no phones or laptops trying to steal your attention… Just focus on the little things that are happening right now!
  4. Be grateful. I forget how far I have come. Not just in my blogging career, but as a person. I am so grateful for the life that I have. I have the most wonderful husband and family. I have built an amazing network of friends both here in London and Sydney. My contacts in PR and the social media world are so rich and positive that they have all become friends, and I can just feel my life filling up with good vibes. I am so, so grateful for this. I know that everything that has come with my life up until now has been such a blessing and I know that in life there are good times and bad – so you have to celebrate and be grateful for the good times while they are here.
  5. Stay positive. Maintaining a light outlook on life and a sense of humour about everything is paramount to me. If I’m not smiling and laughing for at least a few hours per day, then something is wrong. Surround yourself with supportive and expressive people who allow you to behave in your natural state, and reward them with the positivity that they help create in you. And if you feel yourself slipping into a negative state and maybe not wishing the best for people when you know you should, find some time and space where you can raise your self-awareness and try and figure out what is causing it. Life is way too short to get bogged down in negativity, so make sure you actively eliminate it from your life by being aware and selective about your surroundings.
  6. Trust in the universe. Trust that the universe will bring you amazing things in life, and know that we’re all riding a wave that offers us some but not total control over what lies ahead. Try not to be too controlling of situations, because so much of life is beyond our control. Find yourself a big scrapbook, write down your hopes and dreams and goals, and just let the universe help bring them all to life.

How was your summer (or winter for those in the southern hemisphere)? I would love to hear about what you guys got up to and whether any little new thoughts and realise crept into your consciousness!


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  1. simplementlui on September 21, 2018 at 6:28 am

    Great post, superb look and fantastic mules!

    Happy day xx


  2. Roses for Fridays | by mia ? on September 21, 2018 at 6:36 am

    Welcome back Beautiful! It’s always good to take some little time to disconnect and to reconnect … you are coming back stronger and beautiful than ever! ?♥️?

    ???ROSES FOR FRIDAYS ??? | by mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

  3. Lisa Autumn on September 21, 2018 at 5:20 pm

    I firmly believe gratitude is the way to happiness! Such a gorgeous post Ashley!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

  4. Britta on September 21, 2018 at 5:32 pm

    Ash! I love your positive outlook on life and how you always have the time to help and talk even with your busy schedule.
    You are truly the same person since I first met you and thats what makes you such an amazing blogger and friend.
    I am so happy for you for what you have managed to achieve in such a short period of time. You are a true #bosslady !
    Thank you for being you and being such a great inspiration to us all.

    Lots of love

  5. Jennie on September 21, 2018 at 6:30 pm

    I’m on the fence about deleting my Instagram because I’m finding the mentality to compare can get too much but before I make my decision this was a great post to read! #alwaysbeyourself x

  6. Jessica on September 21, 2018 at 11:43 pm

    Fab and sassy look you have here dear! Love the black and white combo of your outfit, and the gorgeous pop of red from your shoes.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  7. TOUCH OF GS on September 22, 2018 at 9:55 pm

    So chic and stylish as always, Ash! I also agree with living in the moment! I’m always on my phone when I’m out and I need to learn to live in the now! x


  8. Sonia Aicha on September 27, 2018 at 5:00 am

    Love this post, so inspiring, #2 and #3 are definitely part of my life but I must admit, it took me a while to learn that lol
    ps: beautiful outfit.

  9. Grace Louise on October 4, 2018 at 4:57 am

    Gorgeous post Hun, I love this look so much and completely agree with all your points 🙂

    Grace Louise || http://www.gracelouiseofficial.blogspot.co.uk/

  10. Judith on October 16, 2018 at 8:32 pm

    Great post Ash! Agree with everything you said. Thanks for the positive message and for being such a warm and beautiful person! Hope to catch up with you soon!! J xx

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