7 New Years Resolution To Make You Physically and Mentally Happier In 2019

The year 2018 was one of the most fun years of my life, but also one of the most taxing years on my body.

My job is to paint a beautiful picture and a fantasy world for my readers; a lifestyle that is pretty to look at, inspiring and hopefully fun to follow. It was my second year in London and I’ve made some amazing close friends that I hang out with on a regular basis, and I managed to do that by networking and putting my self there as much as possible – basically saying ‘YES!’ to everything.

I probably indulged a little too much, said yes a little too much and my fear of missing out made me try to squeeze in as much as I could each week. By the end of summer, I was completely exhausted. I was never home. I lived out of my suitcase a lot, drank too much coffee and didn’t focus on my health. I was constantly getting sick, I lost my voice, and had stomach cramps from a lack of rest.

None of this you will see on my Instagram feed, why? Because the show must go on! I felt that it was my job to work hard, wake up at 5 am to do a morning shoot, and sit up editing until midnight. I was putting so much pressure on myself, but I started to realise I was generating activity, not productivity.

I put too many things in my diary, became too busy and as a result started to lose my creativity because I wasn’t getting enough distance from my work. I became unproductive because I didn’t sleep enough, my to-do list kept piling up and I became overwhelmed. Eventually I hit the bottom, and it was my body that ended up telling me something had to change.

Even though I was feeling exhausted, the one good thing I did was to keep exercising. It was important for me and it was a great release. I think this made it easier for me to bounce back. I left London on the 15th of December and I’ve spent the past 2 weeks resetting my life. I sat myself down and decided to write everything down that was in my head. Everything I can think of and try to process everything slowly.

I kept it simple – started completing to-do lists and crossing them off. I’m planning 2019 and the next six months in detail. All the things I want to achieve both in my work and personal life. For the first time, I feel like I can work on my business rather than in it.

I also took a great break – I went to Bali and enjoyed every bit of it. No make up, no photos, no interrupting a great sunset by filming instead of experiencing it. My mind and body just needed that. For the first time in the past six months, I have clarity and my anxieties have reduced, if not disappeared. I went to some amazing places last year, but coming home to Sydney to be with my family was one of the best things I’ve done. I feel grounded and happy again. I just needed to be around familiar faces, my friends and family. Go to my favourite cafes and restaurants, eat my mum’s home cooking and just hug my dog. All these little things made me happy.

So guys here are some of my tips for a happier you in 2019.

1. Less FOMO (Fear of missing out) and more JOMO (Joy of missing out)

I’ve worked out the reason why I was the way I was this year – because I had a huge fear of missing out. I get all of these amazing opportunities and feel like I have to do all of them. I didn’t want to miss out on any trips, events, parties and the list goes on. Living in London, this is constant! The bottom line is you can’t do them all. You have to pick what is best for you without giving too much of yourself away. What is best for you financially, physically and mentally. Pick and choose things that benefit you. Enjoy that times that you are missing out because you get to be at home with your family and connect with people who love and care about you the most, or even just spend time with yourself relaxing. It’s ok to miss out on things. Enjoy your down time. Run a bath and make your self a cuppa. Enjoy it.

2. Write down to do list

At the end of October, I had over 2000 emails that I needed to go through, 5 blog posts, I was behind on my Youtube videos. I was behind on my sleep – hahaha I was so overwhelmed. My list was so big that it scared me to look at it so the best way for me to deal was to keep ignoring it and hoping it would go away. But it doesn’t. You have clients to keep happy and people are relying on you to deliver. I had to dig deep and get it done. But this was causing so much anxiety, until I started doing my weekly and daily to do list and crossing them off. By breaking down my problems on paper, it made it easier for me to process and solve them. Crossing them off made me feel good and this is the only way to manage my anxiety about work. I have found that I start breaking things down easier by sectioning my work into intervals:

Yearly: What are your achievable stretch-targets for the year ahead?

Monthly: How can I achieve those targets using the sum of 12 individual months’ worth of work?

Weekly: How can I impact my monthly goals in the next 7 days?

Daily: What am I doing today to complete my weekly tasks, and am I ahead or behind schedule?

3. Reserve your energy. It’s ok to say no.

I am a bit of a yes girl. I would say yes first without even thinking twice. Then last year I got to a point that I was giving myself away too much to things that weren’t important, and as a result I ended up with no energy left to do anything properly. So remember, quality not quantity!

Warren Buffett’s talks about the importance of saying no to most things in order to maintain integrity. If you don’t keep some of your energy, your time and your resources for what is important to you, you cannot reasonably expect integrity to fall easily within your values.

It’s hard to say ‘no,’ when the decision is binary between yes or a categorical no.  Warren suggests a “too difficult” category. When a request comes in, he doesn’t just evaluate between yes and no…  sometimes it is not a full yes and it is not a complete no… it is too difficult.

So guys make sure you look after your self first. It’s ok to say no, or simply park it in the ‘too difficult’ spot until your subconscious works it out.

4. Be healthy 80% of the time.

I love food, there’s no doubt about that. You should be allowed to eat anything you want, but everything in moderation. I’m allowed to pig out a little if I want to, so long as I try to remain healthy 80% of the time. I find that if I cook more, I tend to be more healthy with my choice of food and there’s nothing better than a home cooked meal.

5. Get fit and keep exercising. 

I think the only thing that kept me sane this year was my love of exercising. I love going for a run in the morning to clear my head and I love sweating. There’s obviously no doubt that exercise releases serotonin or happy hormones, so that’s why you feel so good after your work out. If you hate working out at the gym, consider a group exercise like F45 or Kobox. Get out there!

6. Take time off work. It’s ok to switch off.

This is such a weird concept to me but one that I now embrace fully. I try to work regular office hours now and not be editing all night long. I had to plan my days better so that at night time, I can switch off and have time to wind down before I sleep. On weekends, I try to leave my phone at home for a day if I can. This way I can really be present in the moment. My life has to be shared online 24/7.

7. Spend more time with your family and friends.

There’s nothing I love more than sitting around the table and eating my mum’s home cooked Thai food. She’s an amazing cook and makes everything from scratch. She feeds my soul and like that she always say to me, “I cook from my heart.” I’m instantly happier, I feel healthy because I know every ingredient that went into that dish. I love spending time with friends and not taking photos. Just to be with them. So much of my job is about documenting every single moment and it’s such a joy to just around and not having to worry about any of that once in a while and just be present in the moment.

Thank you so much for reading guys. I want to wish you guys the most amazing 2019. It’s going to be a big one and I hope you cross off all the lists that you make this year!

Lot of love,

xxx

Ash

 

 

    

 

 

 

 

 

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25 Comments

  1. Radi on January 3, 2019 at 6:43 pm

    Happy 2019! You look gorgeous!
    Cheers to achieving our resolutions!

    http://www.fashionradi.com

  2. Corina on January 3, 2019 at 6:53 pm

    you post is really useful and informative to start new year. and you look stunning in these photos. Happy New Year!
    xo Corina
    https://unbouquetdamour.com/5-things-i-learned-in-2018

  3. Lisa Autumn on January 3, 2019 at 7:40 pm

    Saying no is so so so important.. beaut post Ashley!

    x Lisa | lisaautumn.com

  4. Federica Di Nardo on January 3, 2019 at 9:06 pm

    Same for me! 2018 has been soo tiring but exciting!

    Federica
    http://www.federicadinardo.com

  5. Liv on January 3, 2019 at 9:21 pm

    Happy new year lovely, can’t wait to see what you do next! liv x
    ww.deliciously-floral.co.uk

  6. Jodie on January 4, 2019 at 1:47 am

    It’s so hard to say no, when there are such fun things to do. Because life is short and you want to experience everything. But our health is paramont…you’re so right!!
    XOXO
    Jodie
    http://www.jtouchofstyle.com

  7. Roses for Fridays | by mia 💋 on January 4, 2019 at 1:48 am

    Beautiful inspirational thoughts for the new year. I agree, would love to cook more, there is really nothing like a home cooked meals! Looking beautiful as always.

    🌸🍃ROSES FOR FRIDAYS 🌸🍃| by mia | A Creative Lifestyle Blog

  8. Roses for Fridays | by mia 💋 on January 4, 2019 at 1:52 am
  9. Paulina on January 4, 2019 at 8:13 am

    I like your post. And your bag is so beautiful. https://palinpalin.blogspot.com

  10. Gabrielle on January 4, 2019 at 8:23 am

    This shoot location is absolutely fabulous! I love your seven resolutions here for a healthier lifestyle throughout 2019; especially less FOMO and making sure to get plenty of exercise 🙂 Happy 2019!

    Gabrielle | A Glass Of Ice x

  11. sundaydahlias on January 4, 2019 at 8:48 am

    Happy new year! Thanks for the reminder to take time off and be healthy. Definitely have to work on that this year. Btw, you look super cute in that outfit😘

    http://www.sundaydahlias.com

  12. Tamara Chloé on January 4, 2019 at 10:22 am

    I love these tips ! Especially the to-do list. I visited London in September, and I still have to post my photos on the blog. Talking about being behind on posts lol.

    Thanks for sharing, This shoot is stunning.

    With love from Bali,
    Tamara Chloé

    https://www.TcStyleClues.com

    • Miss Gunner on January 4, 2019 at 4:52 pm

      hahaha babe! I feel you!! omg same! its a never ending cycle!! Thank you so muuch!!!

  13. Jessica on January 4, 2019 at 6:44 pm

    This is such a great list dear, and I couldn’t agree more, especially the last one. I’ll definitely spend more time with the people that matters to me most this year. Thanks for the lovely read dear.

    Jessica | notjessfashion.com

  14. Lackadaisy on January 5, 2019 at 3:03 am

    I love the ones that are focusing on how you shall take time for yourself and not fill everyone’s expectations all the time <3 Definitely great attitude to start the year with!

    xx

  15. Jenelle Witty on January 5, 2019 at 7:30 pm

    It definitely sounds like the break was a welcome one! You did look to be having a super busy and full year, it would get taxing. I hope that you are feeling better now and are refreshed for this year!
    xx Jenelle | http://www.inspiringwit.com

  16. Bri on January 5, 2019 at 8:40 pm

    You go girl! It’s a great list. Inspires me to write down my own 🙂

    xoxo,
    https://blog.brigitadaisy.com

  17. TheOneThatTravels on January 7, 2019 at 2:24 am

    Loving the look the photo selection.
    xx
    https://theonethattravels.wordpress.com/

  18. alison*elle on January 7, 2019 at 3:36 am

    Here’s to 2019 being an even better year!! Also your pictures make me miss London so much… one of my fave cities!!

    xo, alison*elle

  19. atsunamatsui on January 7, 2019 at 6:48 am

    Having less FOMO was something I got better at with age. I realized that the older you get, the more valuable you feel your time is and so I’ve grown to be more selective with how I choose to spend my time and who I want to spend it with. With ever choice we make in life, there will always be sacrifices entailed with it, so learning to be confident in your choices is a necessary lesson for adulting.

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  20. Lizzy on January 11, 2019 at 3:06 am

    Happy New Year, Ash! You look beautiful in these shots! Thank you for being so candid about your struggles. Blogging is hard work and can be so draining if you let it take over your life. I really appreciate the tips you give. Taking a step back to reassess life is so important and your tips will help us do just that. 🙂 Wishing you all the best in 2019!

    http://lizzyslatest.com/

  21. Ramandeep Kaur on January 12, 2019 at 8:42 am

    This one was a lovely read babe! Well, it feels like I am prepared to take on this year! 🙂

  22. Quinn on January 14, 2019 at 10:29 pm

    Love love the idea of JOMO! I’m into it already 😉 Taking time off from work is so important too – great to switch off, beautiful xx

    http://www.qustomquinns.com/blog

  23. May on January 23, 2019 at 5:12 pm

    I get FOMO all the time too. I definitely need to work on the JOMO though. It’s always important to take care of your health.

    May || http://themoderness.com/

  24. keylineseo on February 11, 2019 at 9:46 pm

    Great post dear.
    http://keylineexim.com

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